Edits to the 101 in 1001

Happy Sunday!

The message this morning at church was about the Good (or Great!) Samaritan. The parable is the answer to the question “And who is my neighbor?” from a lawyer. Do all things in love this week. 🙂

Annnnnnnnnnd, as it turns out, there are a ton of categories of Pulitzers – whoops. To clarify, I want to read the last five biographies.

The last five Best Pictures (as of this summer) were Birdman, 12 Years a SlaveArgoThe Artist, and The King’s Speech.

I broke my list into four categories to add them to my Wunderlist app. (Favorite thing ever! Top 10, at least.): One Timers, Week Habits, Month Habits, and Series of Things. Maybe that will help keep my six thousand thoughts straight. I also have a habit tracker app (I had several, still deciding which one to endorse) that will help keep things organized. The goal is to enhance my life, not consume it, right??

Sink or Swim: 101 in 1001

On the heels of yesterday’s post about needing to pick some goals and jump in… Voila! (Is anyone else annoyed with the new habit of calling it “wahlaa” or “waala” or “walla” ? It’s French, people, like capiche and deja vu and chic!! ((random aside as I was Wiki-ing that voila really is French, and not of another romance language — did you know we’re supposed to use “blond” when referring to a man, and “blonde” when referring to a woman??))…)

Okay but for reals… and without further ado… (not adieu, which would be French)

101 in 1001

Today (July 26, 2015)

+1001 (April 22, 2018)

Social

  1. Take a road trip with Mom and Linda to another state
  2. Delete my Facebook
  3. Make an address book of my “friends list”
  4. Perfect a dessert recipe (from scratch) by heart
  5. Find a signature dish from a relative and learn it
  6. Send flowers anonymously to a coworker
  7. Send a birthday present to a long-lost college friend
  8. Send Christmas cards
  9. Finish our wedding album and share with family
  10. Attend a midnight premiere of a movie
  11. Go with the girls to the Caney Zoo
  12. Get family pictures taken
  13. Make friends with someone at church
  14. Start a TV series just for the conversation factor
  15. Take a Daddy & Me trip just because

Emotional

  1. Plan six date nights – just us (okay MAYBE we could take married friends. but it’s still a date).
  2. Find and use a journal prompt for thirty days
  3. Post a picture of gratitude on Instagram every day for two weeks
  4. Take a lunch walk break every day for two weeks
  5. Take extra clothes to be donated
  6. Choose five books to be donated
  7. Write Steven a love note every week for eight weeks
  8. Define my fears
  9. And then face them
  10. Pay for the guy behind me in line’s food at Arby’s 8/20/15
  11. Go on a picnic with my better half
  12. Write a letter to 30 year-old me
  13. Solve three problems while running
  14. Identify (and fix!) three stressors in my life
  15. Download and read five humor/uplifting books from Kindle
  16. Stay current on my pedicures
  17. Do one thing towards my goals every day for two weeks

Spiritual

  1. Complete one BibleApp reading plan< 8/22/15/li>
  2. Complete three BibleApp reading plans
  3. Read the entire New Testament
  4. Read the entire Old Testament
  5. Keep a prayer journal
  6. Practice yoga at least twice a week for four weeks
  7. Find a church my better half is willing to join
  8. Get baptized 8/7/15
  9. Recognize six times when “bad things” work out for good
  10. Read Mere Christianity
  11. Read two books on theology
  12. Make verse art for our room
  13. Find a volunteer cause I’m actually interested in
  14. Read a book about a religion I know nothing about

Environmental

  1. Visit the Bartlesville Farmers’ Market
  2. See Nebraska
  3. See Arizona
  4. See Mexico
  5. Make the Talahina Drive
  6. Ride in a hot air balloon
  7. Go to the Tulsa Zoo
  8. Finish designing the new bathroom
  9. Finish designing the new living room
  10. Hang wedding pictures
  11. Learn the names of 3 local weeds
  12. Raise a garden of at least four vegetables to harvest
  13. Plant an herb garden in the kitchen
  14. Have flowers in the kitchen once a month for four months
  15. Complete one cleaning task a day for seven days
  16. Complete one cleaning task a day for thirty days
  17. Complete tornado bags
  18. Start a box of larger emergency gear
  19. Keep the nightstand tidy for three weeks

Intellectual

  1. Listen to Freakonomics or related Podcast at least once a week for eight weeks
  2. Watch the last five Academy Best Pictures
  3. Read the last five Pulitzer winners
  4. Sew a top with a pattern
  5. Sew an item without a pattern
  6. Read a Wikipedia article a day for 30 days
  7. Complete the Portuguese CD set
  8. Extend my blog to reach more than just my family
  9. Learn to play guitar
  10. Watch three foreign films on Netflix
  11. Take a free online class
  12. Project365 and make a book of the results
  13. Make a creative Pinterest craft for the home
  14. Visit an art gallery
  15. Read Grandmom’s favorite book
  16. Find five blogs who write about farm finance
  17. Get my better half’s credit report three times
  18. Get my credit report three times
  19. Like really read Shakespeare

Physical

  1. Schedule doctor appointments I’ve been avoiding scheduled for 8/31/15
  2. Complete a half marathon
  3. Exercise at least three times a week for three months
  4. Eat three vegetables a day for seven days
  5. Eat four vegetables a day for seven days
  6. Eat five vegetables a day for seven days
  7. Get my better half to eat three vegetables a day for seven days
  8. Learn to swim
  9. Go surfing
  10. Drink 100 oz of water a day for thirty days
  11. Sleep seven hours a night for five days and see what happens
  12. #RunStreak for at least 30 days
  13. Go rock climbing again
  14. Go zip-lining
  15. Hike the Grand Canyon
  16. Donate blood8/25/15
  17. Find the abs

Goals and Priorities and Tasks

I’m a devoted reader of Living Well Spending Less and of Chalene Johnson, and both ladies emphasize the heck out of goal setting. To set a goal is easy. I’ve been doing that since I was a kid in 4-H. It’s the goal-reaching that’s the kicker.

Between Chalene’s PUSH and her 30 Day Challenge, along with every other personal development article I’ve ever read, I came up with some pretty precise definitions. (Forgive me. I like buckets to tie cute little bows around to understand concepts. It’s how I make sense of my world.) Basically, you have…

  • Goal: A point, whether marked by maintenance of a habit or achievement of a specific object, that you want in your life.
  • Tasks: Individual actions you have to do to reach a goal
  • Priority: A value, belief, or focus of your life that molds your attitude and motivates your action.

So, in other words, my priority to make my husband happy gives me the goal of cooking dinner every night so I need to put grocery shopping on my task list. Or I want to run a 2:00:00 half marathon so I need to clear my schedule on Saturdays, because running on a regular basis is good for my health.

I started the list with goal, because that’s where most people want to start. However, the more I read, the more critical it seems that we start with our priorities. What good does it do to get excited to set the goal of buying a dairy herd if I really really value traveling every other weekend to see family and friends? Am I setting myself up for failure if I dream of a bank account with $1,000,000 by the time I’m 30 while I shop for my next sports car? Priorities also frame our decisions. Attaining 15% body fat and setting a Guinness World Record for eating my body weight in gummy bears are each an admirable pursuit, but which one supports my inherent desire to be healthy for my family?

Then finally, we have tasks. If the goal is 15% body fat, the tasks are to clean out junk food, to buy good food, and to get into an exercise routine. If the goal is to own a milk herd, the tasks are to find financing, to build facilities, and to research the best breed for my area.

The area between a goal “I have/I am/I did” and a task “I bought/I decided/I did” is a little grey. This is where I struggle most, I think. Identifying priorities is pretty hard too, but I think my challenge is limiting my dream world to a specific goal that I have steps I can take, and milestones I can set. “Be healthy” is vague but so is “exercise regularly” and “eat four servings of vegetables each day” seems so unforgiving and still isn’t a guarantee of health. “Repair my relationship with X” can be a moving target, if my dear friend X likes me or dislikes me with varying degrees of rationality. ((Can I get an Amen on that one?)) Is a habit really a goal? When can you really say you’ve achieved a habit? But is a goal only an accomplishment? Are reaching and maintaining separate?

I have my priorities drawn out in my journal (I’ll save you the rambling). I need consistency to reach my goals. Consistency first in making goals, and secondly in working on them. If posting in this medium is the best way for me to reach my goals, I hope you’ll forgive me for taking a step back from the Farm Wife and from the City Life, and stepping up just to be me.

Until next time (when I have a list of goals).